My Experience of Going Through a Divorce

Here’s an interesting article I recently read titled ''Why I'm Getting a Divorce in 2014.”

“Before you start assuming I will be leaving my wife, let me just tell you that's just simply not the case. I'm looking to leave someone else. Someone you may not know about. Someone who takes up most of my time, distracts me from spending time with my wife, and even spends time with me during the late hours of the night.

Her name is iPhone 5. She's extremely smart, funny, reliable, and keeps me up to date with all the latest trends. And although she's always by my side, I can't help but notice that she is keeping me from spending time with the people who matter most in my life: God, my wife, my family, and my dreams.

She's really good at keeping my attention. So much so that I've been known to completely ignore people when they are trying to have a conversation with me. She tempts me to use her apps while at church, weddings and funerals, instead of enjoying the moment un-distracted. She even keeps me from working on personal projects that have strict dead-lines.

I can't help but notice she is slowly infecting my social life, my marriage, and the lives of those around me. Many people act like it's no big deal, but I imagine the longer one ignores this issue, the worse one's personal relationships will be affected in the long run.

We need to bring our phones back to being an accessory, not a priority.

In 2014, I vow to divorce my phone. Will you join me?”

Shortly after reading this I divorced my phone too. Ok not voluntarily ( I drunkenly abandoned it in a taxi ) but those long 2 weeks and 1 day I spent without it were really eye opening. I found I was able to concentrate much more, especially on my university studies and the people around me. Conveniently I lost my phone the two weeks before my important project presentation for university. I enjoyed walking from place to place much more without my eyes glued to my instagram feed and instead could experience more of real life. 

A few people, in particular my boyfriend Sam, commented on how much more engaged I was in their company. This was pretty shocking, I hadn’t realised how much of an addict I really was and was sad to think people had noticed my distracting addiction.

Just like any addiction the longer you go without it the easier it gets. Despite being a bit of a nuisance for technicalities of meeting people and making plans I actually found the whole experience freeing. Even though now I have been reunited with a replacement phone I’m going to make a conscious effort to spend less time on it. Especially in the company of others .So thanks Mr Thief- you’ve taught me an important life lesson. Try divorcing your phone too (maybe in a more cost effective way)